In many houses of worship, people with disabilities often struggle to be accepted by their peers and leadership. In fact, many are discriminated against or persecuted. I am here to call out people who run such a house of worship and their members and let them know that what they are doing is very serious. They need to know that they are bullying and discriminating against people with disabilities.
While autism is very widely known anymore, people often get a distorted image of what “Autism looks like.” Like other minority groups, autism comes with stereotypes such as individuals often still “Live with their parents because they are eternal children. Therefore, other people can be bold enough to be condescending. That being said, you don’t have to take their crap and belittlement. Rather, you can learn to be assertive.
This is Sunny Dolen. I am 24 years old, living with both of my parents, looking for a job. I currently make five-minute videos for a company called, TVCO, where I summarize episodes of popular TV shows and post them onto the app. I also am currently writing my book, Autism Travels, a long history of Autism, my life on the spectrum, and issues currently facing the Autism community. I hope to fight for equality and to end discrimination. I hope to fight for change and spread love and acceptance for those in the Autism community.
During high school, I attended both my Jr and Sr. Proms and dealt with the same drama and pressure that most teenagers go through during such an important event. From shopping for dresses to dates, to bullying, there is a story to tell.
During high school, peer pressure can be at its highest point where teens want to fit in and be accepted. However, these can be some bad choices that can lead kids down the wrong paths. However, it is better for individuals on the spectrum to lead more structured lives and focus on setting goals once they graduate.
For people who live on the autism spectrum, connecting with people is often more difficult and especially when it comes to finding the right kinds of friends and groups of people. One of the most common scenarios for individuals is vulnerability to toxic friends and other unhealthy types of situations.
What are the signs of a toxic friendship and how can you prevent them?
Dear Parents of Autistic Adults, I wanted to let you know that while you want to protect your child; I am afraid you can’t hold on forever. Now hold on, I am not accusing you of being terrible parents and nor did I say it. Rather, I say that it might be helpful for you to unlearn everything that you have learned, maybe change your entire way of thinking. Why? If you keep clinging to them and coddling them, they will never move up on their lives. Yes, it’s true, there are lots of predators and evil people out there who would take advantage of your loved ones. That being said, your job is to teach them to set boundaries and fend for themselves. That includes learning to say, “No.” Instead of playing the role of a helicopter parent where you follow your loved ones around like a puppy dog and invade the privacy of their time with their friends, you could play the role of the mentor. In fact, it’s very embarrassing to see this.
What you may not realize about your poor choices is that you are destroying their self-esteem and self-worth. In fact, a majority of autistics experience depression regularly. I have even spoken with parents, who don’t realize they are being protective. A majority of them don’t know what to do with their loved ones because we motivate their loved ones. However, I suspect that because you said “No” and discouraged their children so many times, that they feel worthless. What I also notice are that a lot of individuals end up struggling to manage their emotions.
So again, I encourage you to change your way of thinking of perhaps work on some positive mantras like “My kids are able-bodied and can do everything they put their mind to.” Beyond that, hire a life coach who can help them be all that they can be.
Tonight, I had a pleasure of speaking with Jude Morrow this evening, who is all the way from Ireland. He has a book out called,”Why Does Daddy Always Look so Sad?”
About the Author
Jude Morrow presented communication and social difficulties
early in life, which led to a diagnosis of Asperger Type Autism at
the age of 11. Despite having educational challenges, Jude
progressed through secondary school and graduated from the
University of Ulster with an honors degree in social work in 2012.
Jude now works as a social worker and is a motivational speaker
and advocate for all things autism. His memoir Why Does Daddy
Always Look So Sad? is the story of one man’s journey to
parenthood, and how his autism profoundly affected that journey,
for both better and worse. When not speaking, writing, or social
working, Jude loves spending time with his son, Ethan,
enjoying the outdoors, cooking, and reading.
It’s uncommon for friends to drift apart from each other or fall out. However, the unwritten rules n social relationships often teach us that it’s okay to move on without being upfront. Why? There is a fear of “Hurting the other person’s feelings.” However, doesn’t ghosting, making excuses and brushing off hurtful? Here’s what I have to say about that.